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Post by paula on Dec 4, 2002 18:01:42 GMT -5
my dilemma is that i have a thing for my bestfriend. i have heard that a long long time ago, he has a crush on me  but since ive been having that "i dont wanna ruin our friendship" kind of thing, i so dont wanna push it then or at least buy the idea..fyi, our friends we're like teasing us to death...fast forward 2 years, i moved out of the country then i always get to talk to him, so obviously things have turned around instantly for me...in short, nadevelop ako! the problem is we're like as he calls it "soulmates" and i think he's the only guy i can imagine myself with 50 years or so from now..but i want him badly! so should i make the first move ? like how? |
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Post by louise on Dec 10, 2002 3:32:06 GMT -5
you know what? i have the exact same dilemma right now. what i did was made the first move, and i know what the consequences might be. i am ready for that. what happened? he rejected me.  but he's not letting me go. know what i mean? now am confused as ever.  but hopeful. kung masisikmura mong masaktan, then go ahead. good luck.  |
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Post by paula on Dec 10, 2002 18:36:04 GMT -5
now i realize that all these years we are friends its like i feel na there's something more than friendship that binds the two us...i know i may sound weird and deluded but u know thats how i truly see things..so i'm like in a dark place that sorta just feeling things around me and stuff and one bold step that i'm gonna do .... i might fall into a deep hole or something...i dunno..
i know na i'm kind of martyr din coz everytime we talk, and he asks kung how am i and blah... laging may tag na "friend" ...dont u just wanna hit me? haha..but thats me...i just dont wanna lose him!
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Post by cecils on Dec 11, 2002 10:48:21 GMT -5
hey paula! just like what louise said, if you're really ready to accept the possible consequences of what you're planning to do, then take the risk girl. you'll never know what will happen. its kinda hard to keep it to urself like forever noh. who knows, he might feel the same way too and he's just worried (just like you are) that he'll ruin the friendship if he acts on what he feels about you. so, i'd really say go for it girl ;D
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Post by paula on Dec 12, 2002 2:49:27 GMT -5
aww....thanks girls
right now..im just u know.waitin for some darn signs..who knows.
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Post by louise on Feb 11, 2003 22:15:24 GMT -5
okay, i know am bragging and all but i wanna give you, paula, a hope, so here it is... remember i had the same dilemma? purely past tense. why? i finally stopped going for him. i have been trying to get his attention to woo me, and he rejected me like anything, but i stood by him as a friend. when i said i couldn't take another risk, i stopped. all of a sudden, no calls, no texts, no seeing each other. then guess what? he missed me... told me so... pursued me, and am now in seventh heaven...  all i can say is, patience and prayers surely pay... |
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Post by RALPH WALDO on Apr 25, 2003 20:40:11 GMT -5
Hay nako kaya nga ba I don't believe in platonic relationships between straight men and straight women. Watch "When Harry Met Sally." Somehow, sex or romance would always get in the way! Promise!
So if I were you, don't prolong your agony. Either confess your feelings to him or get rid of him altogether (not kill him, just avoid him).
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Post by eggman on Aug 3, 2003 23:19:05 GMT -5
i didn't know so many people have the same dilemma... just like everyone here... i have the same problem... i'm falling for my best friend but i can't do anything about it...  why you ask? my girlfriend wouldn't like it  |
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Post by IssEyMiYaKe on Aug 19, 2003 16:03:03 GMT -5
Well I think you must think like a million times before you do that, kasi sometimes may mga guys na pangkaibigan ka lng or meantime girl, and if you push it you might end up, without a lovelife, broken hearted and no friend. you might lose him, but if you know the person and you think he wouldn't do that, go ahead. but you have to learn to accept the consequences of the actions you're going to make.
Kung nagpapakita nman xa ng signs that he likes you, why not, diretsuhin mo na sya para alam mo kung san ka lulugar sa buhay nya.
Yung kay louise mahirap kasi kahit nasabi na nya, ni-reject xa, ayaw nman xa pakawalan.
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but since ive been having that "i dont wanna ruin our friendship" kind of thing, i so dont wanna push it then or at least buy the idea..fyi, our friends we're like teasing us to death...fast forward 2 years, i moved out of the country then i always get to talk to him, so obviously things have turned around instantly for me...in short, nadevelop ako! the problem is we're like as he calls it "soulmates" and i think he's the only guy i can imagine myself with 50 years or so from now..but i want him badly!
but hopeful.
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